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Coping with Trauma: Letting Go and Finding Inner Peace

Do you have something in the past that you need to forgive yourself for? Or someone needs to forgive you for? Even if you felt like you were doing the best you could at the time, but you have someone who just won’t let it go? Leaving the past in the past is very often easier said than done.

Survival Mode

 While going through something that I could barely cope with myself, domestic violence, and were barely making it through, basicly just surviving it.

After dealing with traumatic situations, I felt I did pretty well in spite of all that I was dealing with, even though I walked around feeling numb most of the time, after the lack of finding effective therapy, I only got through it with Gods help, never turned to alcohol or drugs just went about life as a single parent taking care of my child the best that I could. As we are going through things it’s often hard to see how it’s affecting others around us, just as it’s hard for them to see how it’s affecting us.

 When we provide for our children, work to keep a roof over their heads, clothes to wear and food to eat, as well as spend quality time with them and all they can see is what they feel we didn’t do, and they proceed to hold it against us often in their adult life, and act as if we need to spend our lives making it up to them, while not even acknowledging what it is we were going through, or anything that we did right back then, are we the really the problem?

Forgiveness

 If it is not in someone else’s heart to forgive and seek out any help that is necessary as an adult in order to heal and let it go, then we will just have to forgive ourselves, pray for them and seek out whatever it is we need to heal, and not allow ourselves to be manipulated or caused to feel guilty about something that has happened in the past that we cannot change.

 I have to continue to remind myself that it is not my responsibility to make someone else happy, but to try my best to understand while taking care of my health and mental wellbeing in the process.

I believe that my ability to forgive right in the midst of what I was going through is the reason I survived, if God can forgive us then who are we to keep holding onto to something, that we need to deal with from our past, it may not be something we can do in our own strength which is why we have to pray and rely on God to help us, and do whatever it is in our power to forgive, heal and move on.

So by asking for guidance from God, not giving up, believing that you can get through it, journaling, meditating or whatever you find that works for you, you can get through it.

                                                                                                                   

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Writing for life

Have you ever had something that just kept nagging at you? And no matter how hard you tried you can’t seem to shake it, and no matter how you try to ignore it, you know it’s something that your supposed to be doing, something God is leading you to, and all the plans you had for your life are on hold, because your moving in another direction, not knowing where it’s taking you, or who you will reach, or who will be following along going through the journey with you. Life can very often be so challenging, when we expect things to go one way, and it doesn’t happen It can throw us for a loop, as the saying goes If you want to hear God laugh, tell him you plan. We can get so caught up in feeling like things should have gone one way, or another and we can spend so much time brooding on what might have been, not realizing that it was not meant to happen the way we planned or wanted in the first place, or that it’s not the time, or that God is saving us or protecting us from something or delaying or stopping it all together, or, that he just has something much better in store for us, but not knowing where the thing is taking you, or who you will reach, who you may help, or who will even be following along going through the journey with you is the the scary part. Well, if you’re at that place, like or not, the only thing to do is surrender to the process and go where life is taking you. Writing has been for me as long as I can remember a form of solace, a form of therapy sort of speak, to be able to write down whatever you’re feeling, in whatever way you choose, without hurting anyone’s feelings or being concerned about how the other person will take it, all while trying to process what I’m feeling and be totally frank in my writing, and get out and release the things I’m feeling on paper, has been so therapeutic, writing down what I’m thinking and gathering thoughts without interruption, judgement or disagreement of how I should be feeling, it all gets worked out through the writing. It may not solve the problem or even make it go away, but being able to release those feelings, and change the way I may be thinking about it can make all the difference in the world. So write when you feeling alone, when you don’t think anyone understands, when your grieving or dealing with a loss, when you don’t understand why things are happening as they are, when you’re wondering why me, when your mad at someone or mad at the world, when someone has done you wrong, when you can’t understand why things are so crazy, write it down, process it, and let the writing help you figure out what you need to do for you, after all who know you better than you. Writing is not to take the place of any therapy needed, if you need therapy by all means seek it out. Happy Writing

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Hello World!

Today is going to be a good day, after all you woke up to see another day, but you have to take steps to assure that it is, by speaking life to your life, thinking good thoughts and deciding that whatever this day brings you will get through it victoriously, with God’s help of course. This doesn’t mean that you will not face challenges, you most certainly will, it means you deciding that it’s going to be a good day, it’s all up to you, as they say it’s not what happens to us it’s how we handle it.

Have a good day!

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